Take Your Life Into Your Own Hands

This is a long post, but stick with me.  Part of it is my story of how I started out all those years ago by taking my life into my own hands…

I have a question for you.

Are you taking your life into your own hands or are you giving up your power to an older version of yourself? 

In other words, because we’re responsible for everything that we attract to us, everything that we decide, sometimes our past choices don’t serve us now. 

We grow, change, evolve, and expand as everybody does. Like kids, we grow up and change. We’re not the same person we were 10 or 20 years ago.  Maybe not even 5 years or 1 year ago! 

Especially if you’re on a spiritual development path, then you’re changing really quickly and manifesting things. Your conscious awareness is expanding rapidly.

Yet, people trap themselves and believe they are trapped.

You feel stuck like you can’t do whatever it is anymore. But you’re in a constant state of wondering what you can do to change your reality, except that you created your reality in the first place! 

Just because you made choices before, when you were a younger, less evolved version of yourself, you believe you have to stick to those choices for the rest of eternity.

Yes, sometimes our choices include other people, like a partner, or a marriage, and this is mainly why marriages break up because of lack of clear communication, my own included, but we’ve learned and healed from that now. Generally, it’s a good idea to work towards saving a relationship if you have one to save. Right? Both people need to want to do that. 

But besides the partnership thing, we give up our power to all sorts of things; we give up our power, to our current circumstances, the situations we create, our friends, our bosses, our colleagues, partners, kids, and animals. 

We give up our power to the weather! We give up our power to just about anything because of past choices that we’ve made. 

What I mean by that is when you choose something in the past, you make a decision, you make a commitment. And as humans, we’re programmed to stick to that commitment to see it through to the end. 

I used to drive my parents crazy because I was forever changing my mind. And they consistently said, “you never stick anything out.” It was a real pressure because I was exploring. I was young and had so many passions. 

Finally, I did find my path, a little late in life but at 37 started studying Transactional Analysis, and then by the time I was 40, Shaman School started, but it really began with TA and went from there.

It still seemed like I was chopping and changing but I wasn’t, I was exploring. I knew I found psychology, and philosophy, the things that were interesting to me. And when I discovered how energy works, I got seriously excited and thought, Okay, now I can really help people and make a difference. 

I started to change my life. I worked on myself all of the time to heal my core wounds. I did tonnes and tonnes of personal work. And, you know, it’s exhausting sometimes, we go through ups and downs, feel in limbo on the seemingly forever plateaus or we just feel like we don’t want to read another self-development book. 

But it’s not just about reading these books and taking in the information. It’s about applying the information and practising the tools that you learn. 

I’m offered loads of healing courses, loads of coaches contact me all the time, and different people are consistently offering me various modalities to study and it all sounds wonderful. But I’m also not going to be a course junkie, I’m going to stay on my path and only study the things that I know I can immediately implement into my already functioning toolbox. Things that are going to complement what I’m already doing so that I’m not forever fragmenting all of the stuff I’ve mastered. Or, I’ll invest in experiences that I know will seriously challenge me and push me outside of my comfort zone to help me expand my own self-awareness.

The other thing that people don’t do is make decisions.

When you’re stuck and trapped in circumstances or a situation or in a bad relationship and you’re just in it, no way out, can’t find a solution “poor me poor me” and you think you’re doing all of the spiritual work… surprise, you’re not!  Because you’re not making a decision. 

The minute you make a decision, you take your life and your power into your own hands and your energy immediately changes and your life starts shifting dramatically. 

When I left Bobby Baby (my lovely ex-husband for those of you who don’t know) 18 years ago and I moved to Spain, I could barely speak Spanish at the time. 

I remembered very little of it from childhood, and was walking around Nerja, a town nearby where I lived in Spain. I was desperately searching with my flyers for a place where I could teach my Theta Healing class.

I didn’t have an income, I knew absolutely no one, and I didn’t even know the language. I didn’t have a support system. I was really on my own, plus, sad as I could possibly be. Devastated actually, I’d just left my husband and my kids stayed with him. I wanted them to come with me, to have the international childhood experience I did, but they didn’t want to go.

So I felt extremely sad and alone in the world. A choice I had made. A choice that was never going to happen. Leaving Bob was never ever in the picture, except that I was so unhappy. Now of course I know we could have worked it out. But back then I didn’t know these things. Anyway. I digress….

I’m walking around at my wit’s end after the whole day and I just looked up to God, “Please, please just help me. God, help me.” 

And you know what?  The next shop was a health food store and there was a sign in the window that said “you can use our space to give talks.” 

I walked in and they said I could give a class there. I had eight people in my first class that I ever taught in Theta Healing. Four of them spoke Spanish, and four of them spoke English. I somehow taught it in my best “Spanglish” making things up as I went, but I managed to wing it. 

And hence, my business was born, and then through word of mouth clients started to come and it progressed like that. 

But it took a huge leap of faith for me when I was in my lowest place I’ve ever been in my life, to go and make a decision for my own best interests. And yes, I faced the sun every day and I questioned my sanity and wondered if I’d made the biggest mistake of my life. 

And yes, it took me a whole 18 years to completely heal the last vestiges of loose threads of all of that self-torture and guilt that I put myself through at the time, despite all of the healing work.

Some things you can really hold on to when it hurts all of the people that you love most in the world. You don’t have to choose to suffer as long as I did.  But I took responsibility for that also. 

When I came back from Spain and lived in our marital home again so we could raise our kids together, (I lived in the coach house), I worked with Bobby and my kids to help them heal from my part of the wounds that I had helped create. 

Just because you’re going to change your circumstances or end a relationship or end a business doesn’t mean that your entire world is going to fall apart. It means that your relationship with things is going to change. And this is where the work comes in. 

You’ve got to trust and you’ve got to go deep within and really know that if you’re following your alignment and your highest intuition you will make the right choices. 

The way we sabotage ourselves is by worrying and projecting doubt and fear of the unknown. 

Five years ago, I left a toxic relationship that I had stayed in for 2 years too long – I had really gone off the rails in that one. Yet, it was also kind of fun. I travelled all over and was jet-setting and experiencing how the other half lives. It was interesting, but I really lost myself into that relationship and gave up all of my power to that person. 

Of course the best thing I did when I left, was to take my life in my own hands. That’s when I took my business online and dove back into the deep end of serious personal spiritual development. 

Naturally, life’s been better, better, better, and better because I’m following my truth and manifesting it. Has it all been easy? No. But I sure learned a lot about myself through all of it and now I only feel gratitude for it.

But what are you afraid of? What’s the worst that can happen if you make a decision based on your alignment and your intuition?

Do you think you’re going to make a wrong decision? Probably not.

If you’re really lined up and not playing mind games with yourself and truly going from your guts, not your ego mind, but your aligned love heart-brain connection, then the universe will line up and support you too… if you keep doing the work and keep calling in all of the good energy. 

A few times during the past five years I’ve asked God, “What am I missing?” And I would always get an answer and then things would happen. So you’ve got to do the work. 

If you’re sitting there waiting for the world to change all around you because you’re just taking in all of the information but you’re not applying it to yourself or practising it, well great. You’re getting a lot of knowledge. But that isn’t wisdom. 

Wisdom is practising.  Wisdom is taking the tools and applying them and being held accountable so that you can make the best choices in your life. Then you don’t feel like you’re totally alone when you’re jumping into the abyss and can know and trust that your wings are going to sprout and carry you.

So I’ll ask you again…what are you giving up your power to? Choices you made in the past that you think you cannot fix now or that are not serving you now? 

Who have you become now? Why don’t you make choices from this now, place? 

Stop taking responsibility for how everybody else around you is going to feel, think, or judge you!  Only worry about yourself first. This is the true meaning of being selfish in the good way. Put yourself first because until you do, you’re not fully available for anyone else out there. 

And when you start making decisions, make one decision. It’s amazing. Your energy changes and life gets so much better all the time. Trust me on this. I’m a living example of it. 

If you’d like to have a discussion and get a different point of view on your current reality, please book a mind-shift call with me. I’d love to speak with you. 

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