Does Your Relationship Status Need an Update?

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Our whole lives have to do with relationship. The relationship first and foremost that we have with ourselves, our God, our creatures, partners, families.  And we are also in relationship with our material possessions, our environment, community, and with money. Everything in life is about relationship.

The most important relationship we have is the one with ourselves because everything starts within. If we’re unhappy in ourselves, or don’t feel good enough, how are we going to be fully available for anyone else?

People in partnerships attract each other for a reason, even if you think your partner is from the opposite side of a different planet! Partners have about 95% of the same root belief systems, even if you are from different cultures, races or have a huge age gap. There will be some underlying belief systems in each of you, good or bad that will attract.

At first you’re in love and everything’s great. But when the conflict starts, those buttons can be pushed so easily by the one that you love, because those annoying parts about your partner that are so easy to see, are the hidden shadow parts of yourself that have been suppressed, those pixelated parts of yourself that are that are stuck in your body.

If you’re in a heavy or toxic relationship or one where there’s no communication, or no love left, you’re just kind of coexisting with a robot, it’s because there’s some unhealed part in yourself, that is not being released from your body, it’s stuck there.

So your partner is consistently triggering that unhealed part inside of yourself. Then the emphasis becomes all about the relationship and the drama and anxiety involved with that, when really what’s stuck in you probably has nothing to do with this relationship!  It’s likely to be something that started much earlier on, something you witnessed or experienced over and over with your parents relationship.

So what is happening now is you are compounding all of those suppressed pixelated parts that are stuck in your body, and it’s very hard to shift out of that if on a day basis you don’t have the space and freedom to just take a moment and think, “Hold on a minute, this isn’t who my fundamental self is! This isn’t how I shine.”

Does your partner have your back? Does your partner support you emotionally? Is s/he there for you and someone that you know you can trust 100% with your deepest darkest secrets? That’s what a true partnership is – somebody that is your best friend, that you can’t wait to see at the end of the day,  who, even if they have a different opinion, are willing to listen to yours.

Can you have a wonderful debate with your partner? It doesn’t mean you always agree. It means being able to communicate in flow, so that you can have a beautiful, easy exchange of energy with whoever it is that you’re with every day.

The longer you stay in a relationship that is wearing you down or if you’re under somebody’s thumb, that is only making your wounding more and more compounded and calcified in the cells of your body which makes it much harder to shift the habits in the relationship or leave them.

That’s also how we get stuck in our patterns over and over.  So, if you’re in an unhappy relationship, that contrast is your best friend because it shows you what you really need to look at within yourself.  How does that thing that you can’t stand about your partner show up in your own life? It might show up in a completely different way with totally different circumstances, but if you’re being triggered or annoyed constantly by your partner, it’s because there’s an unhealed part in you that really needs to change.

If you’re on your own and you’re not in a partnership at the moment, pay attention to your thoughts about the potential of having a relationship, or the potential of meeting somebody new, how does that make you feel? How is your relationship with yourself? Are you happy and aligned, fine with being single? Or are you feeling like you’re lacking a relationship?

Our relationship with ourselves, underlies absolutely every other relationship that we have. It’s really easy to see our shadows when we’re in an active relationship with someone, so that is a great gift for you.

If you’re in an unhappy relationship at the moment, why are you choosing to stay in that uncomfortable comfort zone? Do something about it, because you’re not doing yourself any favours, even if it’s just ‘kind of okay,’ I hear a lot of people just kind of coexisting with their partners, but that’s not what life is about.

Life is about being joyous, in flow, and finding our best potential and best outcome in every situation and in every slice of our life’s pie. Think back to those early days when you met your partner and fell in love in the first place. That’s what we all need to be focusing on all the time.

Sure, we all have our stuff, but your partner is somebody that you want to grow and evolve with. Look at what kind of energy is around your relationship. What kind of energy are you being held in right now, because that’s going to say a lot about where you are in your own mindset, and what you need to shift.

I know we don’t like to look at the difficult things like relationships because it’s scary to think about change. Humans don’t like change. But when we’re working so hard on getting ourselves in alignment, change is essential.

And sometimes it’s good to shake things up a little bit.

So what are you willing to look at and what are you willing to change?

Ready to shake up a few old patterns that no longer serve you?

If you feel you’re ready now to move your energy and be present in your Spiritually Conscious Travels then please book a call with me.

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